Things I want for you:
- make as much light as you possibly can in this world
- go everywhere, do everything, meet everyone
- don’t be afraid to be sad when you feel sad
- or angry or lonely or uncreative or anything demonized by people who are too ignorant to see how incredibly powerful and important it is to understand and be in touch with the things you feel
- make as many other people feel seen and understood as you can
- acknowledge someone when they speak to you, greet you, or show you human decency
- trust actions, not words
- listen to all of the music
- eat good stuff
- make things when you can
- say things when you think them
- never let being scared be the reason you don’t do something that matters to you
- respect your pace
- respect other people’s paces
- take a minute to be absolutely blown away by how completely beyond anything your imagination could have concocted this world can be whenever it happens
- ask questions
- tip well
- make people laugh until it hurts and isn’t funny and they’re crying and maybe farting a little
- appreciate the magic in getting to know someone
- never stop loving people fucking wholeheartedly
- let your heart really, really break
- sew yourself back together afterwards and be a smarter person for it
- eye contact
- never be afraid to be ugly. Joan Rivers used to tell a joke about how a man never reached up a woman’s skirt looking for a library card, and while I get it, he’s usually not looking for a hot vag either. At least not anatomically. He’s looking for something that’s gonna make him feel happy, even if it’s just for a minute. Don’t put your self esteem in the basket where you keep your ability to get someone else off. Anyone could fuck you, but you get to be you. Love that shit holistically. Respect it and revel in it and enjoy it as a separate experience. Literally anyone could love you at your most successful or sexiest, but you get to love you when you’re hungover and insecure and peering into a mirror at 5 AM wondering what the hell you’re doing with yourself. The latter is a privilege. It’s a lot more rewarding and you need to be awake and strong enough to be there for yourself. To bear witness to yourself.
- don’t be too cool for Top 40 radio
- actually, just don’t worry about being cool whenever possible
I wrote this probably more as a letter to myself than anything, but here you are just the same my babies.
(Source: christinefriar)